Wednesday, April 5, 2017

30 Things I want to do & experience in my 30's!

Sitting on a back field during a storm. Fun panoramic, those light rays are Lightning.
Today marks the first day of my 30's. It's something I've been thinking about for almost a year.
"I'm going to be turning thirty." It would be a lie if I said it never had the thought that, "I may be turning thirty soon." But it never stuck and I shut it down because I knew I would soon be turning thirty. Which isn't something that collectively, we ever thought would happen.

It's bizarre to realize and difficult to explain, but it never occurred to me (or many of my parts) that I would able to one day say that and then achieve it. My life has been full of contradictions, chaos and some fuckin terrifying horrible shit at times, but here we are. Thirty.

Over the last several months I've been trying to determine what it is that I, myself, want in life. My parts and I are working on this together...We put together this comprehensive list of things I want in my thirties...

Age 22-23

  1. A home. An actual home. For my husband and I, as well as my parts. A place we can feel safety and consistency. We've lived many places, but never felt "at home."
  2. I want to become fluent in a second language. Only the conversational aspects of it, but still I want to be able to communicate conversationally and am looking forward to it.
  3. Master a new recipe
  4. Get my passport
  5. Plan a trip to another country & go!
  6. Make an entire head to toe outfit from scratch.
  7. Plant a tree at the aforementioned house.
  8. Finish and publish at least one book.
  9. Save more money than we spend
  10. Begin and complete an online course (Cus we enjoy learning)
  11. Work on our relationship with my husband
  12. Road trip to a city I, myself, have never been and explore it properly.
  13. Read 300 books from age 30-before my 40th birthday.
  14. Better my physical health, if at all possible finally get health insurance.
  15. Continue working as a mental health advocate & book more speaking engagements.
  16. Paint one mural per year, at least 8ft. x 12ft.
  17. Keep a daily Journal noting the good, bad, ugly and mundane things that occur each day of life in my 30's.
  18. Run/walk a marathon for a cause, instead of photographing the event.
  19. Attend a cities Comic-Con
  20. Go paintballing or to a rage event. (Destruction because it's needed at times)
  21. Join a group that meets face-to-face. i.e. Book, photo or mental health club/group.
  22. Cook & host a three-five course proper dinner party.
  23. Publish one article, essay or short story every year in a national magazine/paper.
  24. Make my own DIY piece of furniture.
  25. Get the tattoos we want. (Grandmother's memorial piece, friendship ink, Diabetes & DID Awareness pieces and Phoenix Bug's portrait)
  26. Make homemade Tiramisu
  27. Take one photo per day for 10 years (Typically do this anyways) & Print in a series of consecutive photo albums.
  28. See another Broadway Musical.
  29. Weekly act of kindness for a stranger. (Thank you notes, paying for the customer behind me in line)
  30. Before my 40th, find and pay off someone's medical bills who are in need

Age 23 or 24
Age 24 or 25...

Age-17, maybe 18...
Age 20

Age 25
Age 24

Age 19

My husband & I- age 24.
Age 24

Joplin, MO. Where a residential area once was.


  1. This is such a good list. I love the idea of keeping a journal and taking a phot everyday for 10 years.

    Abs x

    1. Thanks! I usually snap a photo most days & now I'm hoping this will push me! If only for something to give a gage of how far I've come... <3

  2. Great post and awesome list! I love the idea of taking a photo everyday it's been something I have been trying to do since I turned 20 but life just gets in the way sometimes 💖

    1. Oh yes, it really can, but I'm determined to try & make up for the days I'll inevitably miss! 😂🖤

  3. That last one is such a thoughtful thing to do! I hope you get to do it someday :) pay it forward xx

    Sophia xx

    1. Thanks very much... I've been hospitalized more times than I'd like to admit (physical/ICU etc not psych) and had someone do this for me years ago. It's always stuck with me.

  4. This is a great list and I have now taken some importation from it - thanks for sharing! So many great things there!

    Jessica |

  5. I love posts like this! I did a 33 before 33 post on my 23rd birthday but I don't like to look at it anymore because it's so daunting haha! I love reading other people's lists like these though and I love the range of things you have on here - all very doable for a 10 year span! Happy birthday for the other day and good luck on completing this! :) xx

    1. Haha! Thank you and yes I'm sure it can become daunting! 🖤

  6. Wonderful to see all your throwback photos, you have certainly had some different looks over the years but they all really suited you! Sounds like you have some really worthwhile goals too, especially paying off someone's medical bills - what a kind gesture!

    Abbey 🦄

    1. Thanks very much. 🙂 I'm finally looking forward to the next pieces of my life. 🖤

  7. Wow what a list I love the photo idea and paying off someones medical bills! Fortunatly we dont have to deal with that over here but I would love to do something lifechanging with the homeless! X
    Lola Mia //

    1. Thanks. ;) Was lucky enough to have someone do that for me years ago, during one of the -many-- times I was very ill. 🖤
      & Yeah, I'm looking forward to the photo project!<3

      I try and gather hats/scarves etc from crochet friends to donate when possible.

  8. Good luck with your list! I'd love to be able to make a whole outfit, that sounds like so much fun!

    1. Yes! I've done it before and loooved what came of it. Looking forward to it again!
      Thank you

  9. Lovely post with so many great ideas to do before you're 30. The last one is so thoughtful too.

    Steph xx

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    1. Thanks for your kind words, Steph! <3
      Take care,